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A Perfect Christmas

This weekend I have been busy making Mr Thrift a ‘Christmas Jumper’.  They are having a competition to raise money in aid of the Rainbows charity.  He didn’t have a jumper so I converted an old one by using the felt from a ‘pound shop’ Christmas stocking, some old baubles, tinsel and cheap chocolates.  I also bought some cheap battery lights from Wilkinsons to add to the effect.  I chuckled all the way through making it.  You can’t see very well on the photo, but it actually says “Ho Ho Ho” on the front of it:

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Our old fire place was fitted into the front room on Saturday and we are very pleased with it.  This meant that we could finally put our Christmas tree up on Sunday.  After Christmas we need to concentrate on decorating this room, but for now it feels like Christmas has begun for us.

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This made me once again think about my perfect Christmas.

When I think of Christmas I have a warm glow inside.  I imagine children with smiles on their faces, beautiful decorations and a wonderful turkey with all the trimmings.  I can hear ‘White Christmas’ playing in the background, while family and friends all sit around laughing and chatting with a glass of mulled wine in their hand.  What perfection!…

….but this never happens.

It’s the television and magazines that make us believe that this perfect world exists and in reality this rarely ever happens.  Unfortunately, this usually puts people under pressure to achieve this imaginary world and they end up feeling disappointed and disheartened as it’s almost impossible to live up to these unrealistic expectations.

 ‘Real life’ for most people is a Christmas dinner that isn’t ready when you want it to be, kids running round madly as they are over excited and for some people it can even be friends or relatives coming round, who they don’t even like….sound familiar?  We put so many pressures on ourselves that no wonder we don’t achieve the perfect Christmas.

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Last years homemade Christmas Crackers

I like to concentrate on what is ‘real life’ at Christmas, I refuse to be drawn into this ‘imaginary’ perfect world.

I like to enjoy my Christmas too, so all year I plan towards it so nothing is rushed at the end.  Every single thing I do from wrapping presents to cooking the Christmas dinner is planned so I can enjoy it.  I have found that if I don’t plan things, I tend to try and achieve too much and then I end up feeling stressed and unhappy.

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Home made truffles

I also try very hard to remember that nothing is ever perfect and things do go wrong.   For example, I know it will be unrealistic for my teenage girls not to argue over the Christmas period so I won’t expect this. I’m also sure my Christmas dinner won’t all be ready at the same time, but it doesn’t matter.  If everything was perfect, life would be boring.

It’s how we deal with the not so perfect things that matter, if we laugh about things and keep them in proportion, they are easier to deal with.

Homemade Hampers

Homemade Hampers

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So for anyone out there that is running around, trying desperately to achieve the unrealistic Christmas that we see in the adverts, please stop and remember that this is not reality and you certainly don’t need to try and achieve it.

Maybe then you will begin to enjoy it and look back for the first time in January and say

“it really was a perfect Christmas”.

Last years Christmas dinner table

Last years Christmas dinner table

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Thank you for reading my blog today.

I will be back on Friday at my usual time.

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A Perfect Christmas – Unrealistic Or Not?

Today I thought I’d write about the ‘Perfect Christmas’, as it seemed wise to do this before all the preparations begin.

Christmas is the season of goodwill, a time for sharing, caring and giving.  When I think of Christmas I have a warm glow inside, as I imagine happy children, beautiful decorations, a wonderful turkey with all the trimmings, ‘White Christmas’ playing in the background, while family and friends all sit around laughing and chatting with a glass of mulled wine in their hand.  What perfection!

In reality, this is all a load of nonsense and never happens.  It’s just what magazines and television make us believe.  All it actually does, is put people under pressure to achieve this imaginary world and we end up feeling disappointed and disheartened as we fail to live up to these unrealistic expectations.

THIS IS NOT REAL LIFE.

Real life is a Christmas dinner that isn’t ready when you want it to be, kids running round madly as they are over excited and for some people it can even be friends or relatives coming round, who you don’t even like….sound familiar?  We put so many pressures on ourselves that no wonder we don’t achieve everything.

I refuse to be drawn into this ‘perfect world’ scenario, as it is my Christmas too and I want to enjoy it.  The only way I can do this is to ‘plan’ as much as possible, as early as possible.  Here are a couple of examples:

Christmas started for us when they switched the Christmas lights on in Leicester.  This happened on Sunday.  We went into town early and had a lovely meal at ‘Pizza Express’ using our Tesco Vouchers, so the meal was actually free.

We watched the lights being turned on and had a lovely time together.  This wasn’t a spur of the moment thing to do, it was planned.

Also, as I said yesterday, I buy presents all through the year, as it is much more pleasant to buy when the shops aren’t busy and I’m not in a rush.  I also manage to buy some things in the sales, which is even better.  This just leaves me the wrapping to do nearer Christmas.  I don’t think of this as a bind, I put some nice Christmas music on and concentrate on wrapping the presents carefully and have nice thoughts about the people who will receive them.  If I had to buy presents at the last minute and wrap them quickly, then it just wouldn’t be enjoyable.

Another thing we do as a family is we all stir the Christmas pudding when I make it.  As we stir, we each make a wish that we hope will come true.  It wouldn’t be the same if I didn’t have time to make one and I bought a supermarket pudding.

So we do many things leading up to Christmas, but everything is planned and enjoyed.  If I don’t plan things then I take on far too much and nothing ever works out.  I end up feeling stressed and no one is really happy.

I also try to remember, nothing is ever perfect and things do go wrong.   I know it will be unrealistic for my teenage girls not to argue over the Christmas period so I won’t expect this. I’m also sure there will be one present that I have missed, or my Christmas dinner won’t all be ready at the same time, but it doesn’t matter.  If everything was perfect, life would be boring.  It’s how we deal with the not so perfect things that matter, if we laugh about things and keep them in proportion, they are easier to deal with.

So keep the up and coming Christmas period enjoyable and less stressful with some planning.  Keep your expectations realistic and achievable.  This way in January, you may  look back for the first time and  say, it was actually a perfect Christmas.

Thank you for reading my blog today.